Why Confidence is Important
(and how not having it affects our lives)
Confidence is feeling assured that you are capable of handling whatever comes your way. It is, essentially, faith in yourself. For some of us, it doesn’t come easily. Some people’s confidence issues began in childhood with overly strict parents or teachers. Others in a tough relationship. Public or private missteps can also cause a loss of confidence. Be encouraged that for as many ways as there are to destroy confidence, there are plenty of ways to build it back up!
Why confidence is important
Our confidence levels have a direct effect on our lives. Show me someone with low confidence and I’ll show you someone who isn’t truly living out her dreams and desires. Confidence (or lack thereof) runs the show.
Growth and Expansion (Don’t be like Debbie)
You remember the one-hit wonder “1985” by Bowling for Soup? For a few years, you couldn’t turn on the radio for any amount of time without hearing it. The song describes Debbie, a middle-aged woman who is living what the song calls an “average life” while lamenting the life she could have had.
Debbie just hit the wall
Never had it all
One Prozac a day
husband’s a CPA
Her dreams went out the door
when she turned twenty-four
Only been with one man
What happened to her plans?
She was gonna be an actress
She was gonna be a star…
To be clear, Debbie’s issue is not her CPA husband (nothing wrong with that), it’s that she is living a life she didn’t necessarily want. If I had to bet, I would put a lot of money down to say Debbie is suffering from a huge lack of confidence.
Confident people don’t settle in and submit to a life they don’t like.
They dare to dream big.
They take risks to pull themselves out of their comfort zones.
They are ok with other people being upset by their choices.
They can handle pressure.
They may feel fear, but they make big moves anyway.
Imagine Debbie’s life if she had the confidence to live the life she wants. Would she wake up every day excited and proud of the life she’s chosen? I think so. This is why confidence is important.
The good news is, it’s not too late for Debbie. She can still grow her confidence, set new goals, take some risks, and end up with a life she is very pleased with. And if it’s not too late for Debbie, it’s not too late for any of us, right!?
We’re talking about this allllll month. Our e-mail subscribers are getting extra advice on how to grow and strengthen their confidence. (It is so do-able.) Sign up for those love letters here if you haven’t already!
You are capable. We’ve just gotta get your feelings matching reality. That’s where confidence comes in. Lot’s more on this in the coming weeks. For now, feel free to start dreaming BIG. ❤️